What does it mean to be your authentic self?
The first word that comes to mind for me is truth. Subconscious truth. Living a life that not only looks good on the outside but FEELS good on the inside (a bit like what I wrote last week about cultivating true beauty from within – to be beautiful is to be yourself!).
I have always lived ‘authentic life’. I follow my heart and do what feels right, for me, and now me and my family. This is my gauge – how good it feels, how effortless – despite sometimes how much time and effort it takes.
When I started my first business Luken & May Biscuits, sold it! and traveled around the world with my husband and kids on a barge, when I set aside my endless to do list to take my kids out for a walk outside, when I’ve allowed stress fade away with the tide and tended to my herb garden, when I’ve sat around a table of inspiring women and truly listened to what they had to say, when I’m sipping on my green smoothies and cooking food for the soul, when I’ve formulated an entire lipstick product line based around holistic living, truth and integrity, when I decided I’d rather spend a life wearing no makeup whatsoever (save for a lick of Lip Nourish lippy) than have my skin clogged and suffocated, when I’ve taken time out from my business to spend time with my mum, when I have really and truly followed my gut instinct and made sacrifices, ignored the voice of fear and have just gone with it. This has been me being at my authentic self, unashamedly.
It’s funny how we draw certain people or events towards us (for the better) when we start to exude this kind of fearless energy. It puts so much into perspective, it makes you realise which areas in your life you may have not being necessarily living out your truth and that’s always an enlightening thing.
3. Set clear intentions about what you want to feel and who you want to be. This can help you change a career, relationship, way of thinking, or lifestyle in beneficial ways.
4. Take responsibility. You are the only person who can find your authentic truth and create the life you love.
5. Accept yourself as you are. The more you come to terms with who you really are at your core, the less energy you waste on worrying and negative thoughts.
6. Express yourself. Try not to fear what other people have to think of your views and opinions. The right people will stick around in your life regardless of whether or not they agree with what you have to say and who you are.
7. Learn from others around you. But don’t get caught up in trying to live out someone else’s dreams or compare yourself. Switch off Facebook or unfriend people if it makes you squirm or roll you eyes every time you see your feed.
8. Practice authentic living. If you feel your true self is not in alignment with the life you are living, then make some tweaks or major re-calibrating.
9. Speak the truth when it’s necessary. Sometimes, in order to be authentic, you simply do not need to say anything at all to prove a point. Be real, compassionate, humble and honest when the occasion calls for it. Let authenticity course from you like rays of sunlight.
10. Don’t over think it. It should be natural, free-flowing. Don’t force it. Just be. Listen gently to the whisperings of your heart. Learn how to discern the difference between truth (gut instinct, subconscious voice, moral compass) and ego (thought, anxiety, fear, overwhelming feelings). Be mindful of love all around you. Feel that love; and roll with it. You’ll be surprised where you can end up.
Authenticity is what is left over when the mind steps out of the way and let’s the soul shine through. By pursuing the intention of being fearlessly authentic, you focus your attention on whatever resonates with your truth so you can live your best life yet.